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Scriptural Freedom to
Remarry: The 1991 Kingdom Ministry School textbook, page 135, paragraph 1,
describes a situation where an adulterous mate unilaterally obtains a divorce
over the objection of the innocent mate. In such a case, the guilty one is not
free to remarry.
What if the innocent mate consents to the divorce by
signing the divorce papers? Does this free the guilty mate to remarry? Yes,
Jesus' counsel at Matthew 5:37 applies here: "Let your Yes mean Yes, your No,
No." If the innocent mate, perhaps in an effort to protect herself financially
or to obtain custody of children, agrees to a divorce obtained by her adulterous
husband, the adulterous one is then free to remarry. Although the innocent one
may claim forgiveness, by signing the divorce papers she indicates her rejection
of the adulterous mate. Since she has rejected that one, she holds no further
claim on him, and he is Scripturally free to remarry .
Another situation
involving the Scriptural freedom to remarry is where an unscriptural divorce is
obtained and then, some time later, one of the mates commits fornication. In
such a case, does either one have a Scriptural basis to remarry?
If a man
takes the initiative and divorces his mate without a Scriptural basis and his
divorced wife later commits adultery, both are free to remarry. This is because,
by his previous unscriptural action of divorcing his wife, the husband has given
evidence of his wanting to reject her. What is stated in the 1991 Kingdom
Ministry School textbook, page 135, paragraph 6, applies: "A person who commits
adultery after having been divorced by his or her mate on unscriptural grounds
would be Scripturally free to remarry, since he or she had already been rejected
by the mate that obtained the divorce. " However, the converse is not
necessarily true.
If the one who initiated the unscriptural divorce later
commits adultery, that one is still obligated to confess to the mate, although
they are legally divorced. The innocent mate must be given the opportunity to
determine whether to forgive or not. However, in both cases, the one committing
adultery would need to meet with a judicial committee.
While the principles
outlined above should prove helpful in handling inquiries from publishers about
the Scriptural freedom to remarry , the elders should always exercise extreme
caution when providing an answer. They should never inform a publisher that
there appears to be a basis for Scriptural freedom to divorce and remarry ,
unless conclusive evidence has been established (1) that adultery was committed,
(2) that the innocent mate has rejected the guilty one, and (3) that a legal,
final divorce has been obtained. Because of the numerous factors involved in
such matters, in many cases it will be best to write the Society. When doing so,
always provide as many details as possible, including the names of the
individuals involved. The Society will then provide the needed assistance.
When a divorced brother or sister wishes to remarry , the elders should
kindly request to see the divorce papers to make sure that that one is legally
free to do so. They should also determine that it has been established that both
parties involved are Scripturally free to remarry . (Matt. 19:9) This will help
servants of Jehovah to preserve the cleanness of the congregation and avoid
entering adulterous marriages. Always review the Society's letter to all bodies
of elders.
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dated May 15, 1988, regarding. guidelines on wedding procedures before agreeing
to solemnize any marriage.
Please be assured of our prayers on your behalf as you endeavor to fulfill your
weighty responsibilities as shepherds of the flock. We send herewith a warm
expression of our Christian love and best wishes.
Your brothers,WTBS
P .S. to Body of Elders: At the next meeting of the entire body of elders, the
presiding overseer
should have this letter read and should have each elder make the following notations
in the margins of his personal copy of the 1991 Kingdom Ministry School textbook:
On page 93, next to paragraphs 10-11: See the Society's letters dated July 20,1998;
March 14, 1997; August 1,1995; February 3,1993; March 23,1992; and July 1,1989.
On page 135, next to paragraphs 1-6: See the Society's letter dated July 20,1998.